Christian Online Dating Strategy For Him or Her
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As a Christian before you dive head on into the world of online dating, it is very important that you prepare yourself for success and not just to have participated. The following strategy will help you kick off your search.
Clear your mind
The main reason, the one and only reason why you are going online to participate in online dating is to find a worthwhile partner. To clear your mind means having a mindset that you will get a partner from your endeavor. Remove all negativity from your mind and be very optimistic that at the end of your search you will find the right partner. If you do not have the mind set for success you will unconsciously sabotage yourself and all your effort will be wasted.
Is online dating what a Christian should be involved in?
That is a question that is on the mind of many Christians. Most people believe that they should wait for God to deliver the right person to them on the alter already in a wedding gown or tuxedo. Sometimes that happens, but other times God is in the business of blessing effort…, show me your hands and I will bless them. Show me the effort you are taking to help yourself and I will assist you.
I believe that when you pray to God and make him a part of your quest, he will guide you and lead you to the person that is right for you
Is Christian online dating safe?
There is no denying the fact that the internet has made it easy for people of ill repute to show up in dating sites with a different set of agenda, but the fact remains that it is a very good medium to have access to and interact with a huge number of people from the comfort of your own home. Most Christian online dating sites provide the necessary features to make it safe for you, but you must also be a responsible user. When setting up your profile never uses your real name, do not provide personal information like phone numbers, work or home addresses. Do not agree to a face to face meeting until you are comfortable with the person online. However, when you do decide to meet “offline” make sure you meet at a public place such as a coffee shop or park, and insist that you both bring a friend.
Strategy for success online
The good news is that all you need is a computer and an internet connection to get started. The first thing to do is find an online dating site that fits your needs. There’re large sites that offer many extras like live video chat, instant messaging, etc and even match you up with individuals using your profile. A lot of other sites cater to special interests so you need to choose one or two that will meet your needs. I don’t recommend the free sites. The paid sites have a money back guarantee if you are not satisfied with their services and the investment is small. A whole months access to their website should cost less than one dinner and movie date.
Write your profile
The next thing you need to do is write a killer, but honest, profile and then upload a recent but flattering picture of yourself. Now you are all set. Start contacting the individuals whose profiles sound interesting to you.
Honesty is the best policy
Be absolutely honest about your physical appearance and what you do for a living aka your job. A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on lies and deceit. Eventually the person you are dealing with will find out the truth as the relationship progresses and it might not be very favorable to you.
The Picture
A picture really is worth a thousand words. To be successful in online dating you must post pictures. Research has shown that profiles without pictures get very little interest.
Post many pictures of yourself doing your everyday activities and make them full body shots, not just head shots. When dating in the real world, your partner sees you head to toe, not just your head, so always try to post different full body pictures doing your every day things.
You must be patient
Don’t give up after a month and think you will never find the right partner for you. There is a constant flow of people into online dating services daily and at least a good percentage would want to at least get to know you better.
When you make contact, do not try to rush the person for a face to face meeting or for personal information. Give the relationship time to develop.
Activities you can do online
Before actually meeting in person, many dates get acquainted online first. Here’s how.
Photos - As a wonderful keepsake of your budding romance, create an online photo album for your new cyber-mate. Include digital photos of favorite outdoor scenes, pets, flowers, cars, silly moments, your computer corner or laptop, etc. Then you’ll even have more to discuss during online dates via emails and chat rooms. Search for “photo albums” to find places that store your photos.
Greeting Cards- Regardless of where the person lives, you can email a greeting card. If privacy and security is an issue. Search your favorite search engine for online greeting cards to send, too. They range from free to low cost and can be sent in a click of the mouse.
So get online and get active! No need to risk meeting in person until you get more familiar with each other online first. So take the online plunge!
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